“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.” ~ Joseph Campbell.
Life is often shit, and it kicks us hard in places we don’t want to be kicked (unless that’s your thing, then kick away).
But we can kick it right back.
We have a choice, every single day. We have the ability to live or to die.
Not die in the physical sense – we don’t have a choice there. But every victory we let slip away, we die. Every moment we can grab but let go of, we die.
But that can stop now.
So. Take a pen and a journal, and sit down and begin writing. Uninterrupted. Until you’ve finished what you need to say.
- Make a list of every single thing you’ve let go and cross off the ones you had no choice in.
- Prioritize the remainder and put the ones that are still affecting you now to the top.
- Pick the most prominent entry on the list, and make that your personal nemesis.
- Research what you need to do to beat this enemy. Google is your friend, but your friends are your Google too – ask if any of them have had to overcome a similar challenge. To do this, you’re going to need to leave pride at the door.
- Make a battle plan of small victories. Be realistic, but be rigorous with the timescale you want to afford this nemesis.
- Get the support of friends, and family (and professionals, where needed), and view your nemesis as the single thing that can give you life; but to do so, it has to die.
I won’t lie – it’s not going to be easy. You’ll have to overcome some fears, demons and other personal pride stuff along the way. But nothing great ever comes easy.
Dying is easy – our breathing just stops. Living? That’s hard – because from the moment we’re born, we’re forcing ourselves to take another breath every single second.
Then again, there’s not a lot you can accomplish when you’re dead – and you don’t have to die to prove that. But letting go the things that continue to hold you back?
That’s when you start to live deliberately.
Ready to start on that list?